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Why on earth did you ressurect this thread? ... it was doing just fine when it was dead and gone on page five of the forums....
The only thing that can shield you (anyone) from infidelity in your relationship is mutual maturity, respect, and integrity. I'm not saying that those three thing guarantee you not to experience getting cheated on or catching drama, but if YOU are operating in those three areas personally your odds greatly decrease of getting caught up in 'drama'. Maturity means you understand that a relationship is about more than the 'hottest peice of @ss you can get with"... nuff said. Respect means that you respect yourself and the other person enough to be real and upfront with how 'open' you want your relationship to be. Most of us guys at one point have all had "friends with benefits" on the side while already in relationship, or have otherwise just flat out cheated on our partner at the time. But it takes respect to realize that you cant hold up another person's life and feelings while you want to run the streets. And finally there's integrity. It's the fundamental ingredient to any relationship. Women call it Trust but they usually fail to understand that dudes dont operate off of trust when in relationships. When a woman extends her trust to you and you're the one who's dirty, it allows a dude to put the "blame" more on her than himself. Dudes dont VALUE trust like women. But on the other hand, IF YOU operate with integrity, then YOUR actions and judgments cant be blamed on her placing her trust in you or not... you own up to and uphold the right actions and values cause it's on YOU. Now.. to get integrity (if you dont already have it) -- and dont lie and say you do if you dont, cause that's defeating the whole purpose... sheesh -- you first need Maturity... see where I'm going with this? Listen, I've known and loved my (now) wife for 5 years, but for 3.5 of those years i lacked all three of those items in our relationship. I cheated, slept around yada yada. But the I decided to grow up. I turned my life around, got my stuff together and married her 7 months ago today (on 07/07/07). The process has made me a different man. The post above mine said this "there isnt a single girl out there that's worth the time and effort for us guys to pull our hair out and go crazy over..." in some ways he's right, because the one worth the time and the effort wont make you do that. Why? Because she's operating in the same three items i mentioned as well. Real Talk.... Nautica2450
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I caugh my ex cheating awhile ago cause i bought her a new phone and did a ESN swap with the old phone, now i forgot to turn the old phone off and she went out for the night with her "girls".. then around midnight the old phone started ringing and it was my buddy that had no reason in the world to have her number let alone call her... So that threw up red flags to me so i started to look around.. I called sprint and had her phone bills changed to detailed billing (was in my name) and requested information for the last year... Also bought and installed xora time tracking on the new phone.. cost me $12 a month and only used it for 2 weeks (all the time i needed).. When i got the information i sat down with my buddies wife and we went over some of the dates and times of their phone coverstations, which oddly turned out to be the same times she was at work and/or i was at work or out of town... Needless to say the gf was thrown out of the house on her ass and my buddy was divorced and taken for everything he had and is going to have... Worst part about the whole thing was having to testifly at their divorce hearing.. Best part was takeing my phone back the ex explaining to her how she got caught... and she thought i had a keylogger on my pc so wouldnt email this guy LMAO
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Yeah, where is that option chief?
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My 2 cents. Try just leaving like real men do. The courts are gonna award custody to her automaticly unless you can prove her to be unfit, but I don't think that cheating qualifies you to custody of the children. That said your gonna pay child support. You might as well get to stepin and go on with your life. You can always see your kids. Bottom line is if she wants to see other people there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. So why be miserable. Just bounce. It's not enough money in the world or love to buy you peace of mind. Start rebuilding as this journey of life teaches once again.
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who gives a rats ass about all that spy software crap.. just call up Sprint and get what you need. Easiest thing to do. Trust me you don't have to be a woman to call in even if the account is in her name. Just know her last 4 of SS and name. Them Reps don't really care.
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