Have 6.1 & Sprint's newest Rom..but can't flash a custom

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First, yes, I have just joined but have been following this forum for years. I went to the htc site upgraded my rom and radio to the newest Sprint rom. Now I want to get the Diamond Dette Rom.

Here's where the problem starts: I connect to activesynce..try to run the vogue unlocker 2.31..goes fine until it says disconnect and reconnect device..by that time my vogue is in bootloader and says USB, but no connection to activesync..so of course I can't continue, and can't establish a connection..

1. tried vogue unlocker 0.41
2. tried to flash when starting in bootloader
3. changed usb ports
4. can boot into WM

HELP what am I doing wrong..I'm not a newbie to ppc's and I'm stuck..makes me feel newbie-ish