Bluetooth Taskbar Icon Lost

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I have an HTC Diamond flashed with the new WM6.5 widgets from cooking my own ROM. When I turn BT on, there is no taskbar icon. From what I have read, it seems that it is a problem with the default dialer. I have seen a number of posts saying that you need the Opal/Jade dialer. I tried that and when I installed it, the BT icon appeared (although it looked really crappy) but the phone dialers are QVGA if I am not mistaken so they were really small and unusable.

I installed wmdialer_Bluetooth.cab. That too added a BT icon but again it looked really goofy and when I tried to skin the taskbar icons with tsowen taskbar, it didn't skin the icon.

So I found BluetoothIconNotifier.cab for samsung PPCs. This actually looks like the correct BT VGA icon and works but again, when I try to skin the taskbar icons, this doesn't skin.

Now I have been trying each of the dialers in the kitchen to see if they show the icons. With the stock Sprint ROM I have the icon, no problem. I'm sure it has something to do with the WM6.5 defaults and/or the dialer.

Anyone else know how I can fix this so I can get the BT notification as well as be able to properly skin it?