not yet....but i will

confront her. you are the one that wants honesty in the relationship. take her out to dinner, nice ambiance, have a few drinks, then flat out ask her, "are you cheating on me?"

and before you go, make her take a shower so you can steal her phone, hide it somewhere in the house. when you get home, you could probably see if he's sent any text (make sure you put it on mute and have your wife go without a phone for a few days, then magically find it in the laundry room or something.

I am going through the same thing, and I know my wife is cheating but in AZ it is a no fault state so it doesn't matter to the judge. Last night we got into a fight because she thought I set up something on her phone (I recently installed WM6 on it) to track her calls, and I told her all I have to do is log on to the Verizon website and I can see all her calls and text, and she goes, no you cant, it just shows you how many, but not to who. I said wrong, and pulled up the site and showed her all the text messages she sent to him, the deer in the headlights look on her face was classic!!!!!

Guys honestly, its not worth it to even mess with this crap. My wife cheated and it kills me (the connection I thought we had, man was i stupid).

Dont cause more issues and make it worse then it is, just confront, and move on. proof matters none in the long run, just end the relationship and move on with your life.

Trust me, i had the Sprint Family Locater, and checked her phone nightly, made myself friggin sick, but for what? I hurt myself by wasting all that time. Who is the idiot? me.

ls6tt, you need counseling brother.

:scratches head: i need counseling cause i accepted it and have moved on with my life versus continued to deal with it and her and search out information? confused mate.

updates man updates!

No, you need counseling because you blame yourself too much (stupid/Idiot comments). You need to change your thought process and that's hard to do alone... You will feel much better. That wasn't a knock it was serious advise.

Ah, that makes more sense, and I appreciate it. But im good to go.

What you are saying is right to a degree on both, I can see what ls6tt is saying. I truly think and this is just my opinion to try and clear this up faster, let her know you know what's going on. Let her know if she wants to be with the other, go do her, split and leave you and the kids be if that's what she wants. No need to try and drag it on, or you also give a a option, you or him, you can try and make your narriage work or break it to the kids depending on there ages that you two are spliting and take it from there, but going through this the way your taking it now is going to hurt more and when you find out, man none of us want to hear you on the news for doing something, not to say you are. But you need to clear this soon, really and good luck to you we all support you.