not yet....but i will

confront her. you are the one that wants honesty in the relationship. take her out to dinner, nice ambiance, have a few drinks, then flat out ask her, "are you cheating on me?"

and before you go, make her take a shower so you can steal her phone, hide it somewhere in the house. when you get home, you could probably see if he's sent any text (make sure you put it on mute and have your wife go without a phone for a few days, then magically find it in the laundry room or something.

I am going through the same thing, and I know my wife is cheating but in AZ it is a no fault state so it doesn't matter to the judge. Last night we got into a fight because she thought I set up something on her phone (I recently installed WM6 on it) to track her calls, and I told her all I have to do is log on to the Verizon website and I can see all her calls and text, and she goes, no you cant, it just shows you how many, but not to who. I said wrong, and pulled up the site and showed her all the text messages she sent to him, the deer in the headlights look on her face was classic!!!!!

Guys honestly, its not worth it to even mess with this crap. My wife cheated and it kills me (the connection I thought we had, man was i stupid).

Dont cause more issues and make it worse then it is, just confront, and move on. proof matters none in the long run, just end the relationship and move on with your life.

Trust me, i had the Sprint Family Locater, and checked her phone nightly, made myself friggin sick, but for what? I hurt myself by wasting all that time. Who is the idiot? me.

ls6tt, you need counseling brother.

:scratches head: i need counseling cause i accepted it and have moved on with my life versus continued to deal with it and her and search out information? confused mate.

updates man updates!

No, you need counseling because you blame yourself too much (stupid/Idiot comments). You need to change your thought process and that's hard to do alone... You will feel much better. That wasn't a knock it was serious advise.

Ah, that makes more sense, and I appreciate it. But im good to go.

What you are saying is right to a degree on both, I can see what ls6tt is saying. I truly think and this is just my opinion to try and clear this up faster, let her know you know what's going on. Let her know if she wants to be with the other, go do her, split and leave you and the kids be if that's what she wants. No need to try and drag it on, or you also give a a option, you or him, you can try and make your narriage work or break it to the kids depending on there ages that you two are spliting and take it from there, but going through this the way your taking it now is going to hurt more and when you find out, man none of us want to hear you on the news for doing something, not to say you are. But you need to clear this soon, really and good luck to you we all support you.

I went out of town for a weekend. I had my work phone and left my Mogul at home. My GF asked if she could barrow it for a few days because she was interested in getting one herself. I told her sure. When I got back I noticed alot of dust on the keyboard. This meant high use to me as I always clean the phone once a week. Needless to say I called Sprint. It took me 2 hours but they finaly got me to the right department. After tripple checking my info the guy emailed me on the spot a full record of my phone service over the last year including all text messages, phone calls, to the point that I could tell what network I was connected to at the time. This GF was still pretty new so I did not have full trust in her yet. She turned out to be clean. The only text messages she sent was to her best friend about total BS.

I was very VERY pleased with Sprint's ability to help me on this and almost instantly. No waiting for the postal service but right into my email service.

I told them I let my son use the phone btw and I wanted to make sure he wasnt breaking the law. The rep did not care he was giving it to me the second I asked for it either way. Turn sout we have a right to summon these records by federal law.

Have a talk with her. You should know the truth after that. You don't need to check her texts

She is an attorney....she can lie pretty good

well I'm new to posting guys but here it goses well I wanted to see if the second phone could pick up the text messages .. IT turns out that all it will pick up is the new voicemails icons not the messages itself hope this helps

Sorry to hear about this but IMO, it might be better to just move on with both of your lives. I have been divorced for 3 years now with two cildren that were very young. I am a better person now that I have moved on with my life.

p.s. I also totally HATE attorney's also!!!! :mad:

Wow. So many guys here who got cheated on. The times really are changing it seems. Hopefully you are all going out and getting more @ss than a toilet seat now.

You dont want that toliet seat ass, you wanna stick with the bar stool ass.....

Went through the same thing with my Ex-fiance' . She didnt know $h!t about phones. This idiot was using an old Samsung V1000, that was actually my phone that i gave her on my account when she couldnt afford to pay her own cell phone bill. She was texting and calling him all the time. She didnt know when she was sending him pictures the the Sprint Picture mail website tracks it. So I would log into here picturemail account (that I set up) and look at all the pictures she was sending him. I know the regular Sprint site use to keep track of text messages as well, before they went to SMS. you use to have to log onto the internet to send text messages (remember that!).

There was nothing she could say. She tried to tell me it was her daughter she was sending text messages to (who was downstairs) to bring her a wash cloth and towel. Yeah Right!

I tried to be man about it and forgive her the first time she slept with the guy. I ran around and cheated on her from the day we had go together. So her cheating once really didn't matter. I had to listen to what a friend of mine said about his with cheating on him:

"she can give away half as much P**** and I gave away D***, that B**** is good. "

So i let it go the 1st time, but when she did it again.... i took the ring, the phone, the car etc... back. And let her go.

She is married to the guy know and they fight more than ever. I know she has cheated on him with at least 2 dudes since she got married in May of 2007. They have been together officially since mar. 2006

Its gets better. I started dating my wife a week after I dumped my Ex and I got married in Oct of 2007 and we are planning a big wedding t invite our families too in Oct of 2008.

Cut your losses and roll out. You will be happier

If you suspect she's cheating and she has done it before, she probably is....and unfortunately IMHO counseling does not work (ON SOAPBOX..mainly because counselors are usually have similar problems themselves and always extend their problems onto yours and how you should handle it..OFF SOAPBOX)

My advice is to just file for divorce, and odds are you live in a no-fault divorce state, hopefully she will agree on a 50/50 deal with the kids....and split everything else down the middle....hell she will probably owe YOU alimony if she's a lawyer.

Just be done with it and move forward, find peace within yourself, you and your kids will be better off in the long run.....been there myself

Jeez, is there no fidelity left in this world, have the media moguls twisted our morals, and values to the point that we all see just one bland shade of gray. Everyone getting cheated on, with the divorce rate climbing, are human beings ganna resort to just animals that change partners as they please, and just continue to pass disease and hurt to each and everyone. There is no respect left for the institution of marriage, its a joke that you can drive up, get married, and drive off. And its just a shame that divorce lawyers are wealthier than ever.

damn... this is a deep topic.. never thought i'd find a life lesson on a ppc web site... lmao... kind funny though cuz im goin through the same shit... i was goin to activate the sprint locator this week on my girl friends phone... but f*@k her... all though shes probably the hottest piece of a$$ ive had in a while... (I pulled her outta a really popular club she works at in LA, SHES SMOKIN!!! ... if i were u guys i'd look into neil strauss's book the game... also the mystery method... speed seduction... and swinggcats.... there's a whole community just like this one out there to help us guys get more of the pink stuff) but anyways im gonna move on... there isnt a single girl out there that's worth the time and effort for us guys to pull our hair out and go crazy over... much love and respect to this community.

Why on earth did you ressurect this thread? ... it was doing just fine when it was dead and gone on page five of the forums....

The only thing that can shield you (anyone) from infidelity in your relationship is mutual maturity, respect, and integrity. I'm not saying that those three thing guarantee you not to experience getting cheated on or catching drama, but if YOU are operating in those three areas personally your odds greatly decrease of getting caught up in 'drama'.

Maturity means you understand that a relationship is about more than the 'hottest peice of @ss you can get with"... nuff said.

Respect means that you respect yourself and the other person enough to be real and upfront with how 'open' you want your relationship to be. Most of us guys at one point have all had "friends with benefits" on the side while already in relationship, or have otherwise just flat out cheated on our partner at the time. But it takes respect to realize that you cant hold up another person's life and feelings while you want to run the streets.

And finally there's integrity. It's the fundamental ingredient to any relationship. Women call it Trust but they usually fail to understand that dudes dont operate off of trust when in relationships. When a woman extends her trust to you and you're the one who's dirty, it allows a dude to put the "blame" more on her than himself. Dudes dont VALUE trust like women. But on the other hand, IF YOU operate with integrity, then YOUR actions and judgments cant be blamed on her placing her trust in you or not... you own up to and uphold the right actions and values cause it's on YOU.

Now.. to get integrity (if you dont already have it) -- and dont lie and say you do if you dont, cause that's defeating the whole purpose... sheesh -- you first need Maturity... see where I'm going with this?

Listen, I've known and loved my (now) wife for 5 years, but for 3.5 of those years i lacked all three of those items in our relationship. I cheated, slept around yada yada. But the I decided to grow up. I turned my life around, got my stuff together and married her 7 months ago today (on 07/07/07). The process has made me a different man.

The post above mine said this "there isnt a single girl out there that's worth the time and effort for us guys to pull our hair out and go crazy over..." in some ways he's right, because the one worth the time and the effort wont make you do that. Why? Because she's operating in the same three items i mentioned as well.

Real Talk.... Nautica2450

amen to that!!!

since the thread showed up again....

www.mobile-spy.com is a heck of a little program....

I caugh my ex cheating awhile ago cause i bought her a new phone and did a ESN swap with the old phone, now i forgot to turn the old phone off and she went out for the night with her "girls".. then around midnight the old phone started ringing and it was my buddy that had no reason in the world to have her number let alone call her... So that threw up red flags to me so i started to look around.. I called sprint and had her phone bills changed to detailed billing (was in my name) and requested information for the last year... Also bought and installed xora time tracking on the new phone.. cost me $12 a month and only used it for 2 weeks (all the time i needed).. When i got the information i sat down with my buddies wife and we went over some of the dates and times of their phone coverstations, which oddly turned out to be the same times she was at work and/or i was at work or out of town... Needless to say the gf was thrown out of the house on her ass and my buddy was divorced and taken for everything he had and is going to have... Worst part about the whole thing was having to testifly at their divorce hearing.. Best part was takeing my phone back the ex explaining to her how she got caught... and she thought i had a keylogger on my pc so wouldnt email this guy LMAO

I think.....therefore I'm single.haha sorry to hear about everyones mishaps with the opposite sex...stayin single has saved soooo many headaches.

whoa! in verizon, you get to checked what text messages was sent?
like exact words??

Yeah, where is that option chief?

My 2 cents. Try just leaving like real men do. The courts are gonna award custody to her automaticly unless you can prove her to be unfit, but I don't think that cheating qualifies you to custody of the children. That said your gonna pay child support. You might as well get to stepin and go on with your life. You can always see your kids. Bottom line is if she wants to see other people there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. So why be miserable. Just bounce. It's not enough money in the world or love to buy you peace of mind. Start rebuilding as this journey of life teaches once again.

who gives a rats ass about all that spy software crap.. just call up Sprint and get what you need. Easiest thing to do. Trust me you don't have to be a woman to call in even if the account is in her name. Just know her last 4 of SS and name. Them Reps don't really care.

I am going through this as well, there has to be a search warrant signed by a judge for you to obtain any information from the account as it protects the other "parties" involvoed. I already contacted Corporate Security and they advised of this and why.....hope this helps. I caught mine with a keylogger/datalogger/screenshot capture utility.

I used the family locator, best 10/month I have ever spent...got a lot of useful information....it's different when you are married and have a kid though...

dude, you guy should be embaressed and feel like lossers smh

That is actually one of the rudest things I have ever heard someone say. I actually hope someone someday pulls this stunt on you so you can see how it feels. It is the worst possible feeling in the world to find out that the person you love is cheating on you. You feel absolutely belittled, like nothing else matters anymore. Try it before you hate the people who go through it.

Not exact words, but every time she sends a text or receives one I can see date, time and number to or from. and if they are on verizon or not.

That is such old school thinking and not the case anymore. The courts have learned to do what is least detrimental to the children as possible. Woman are losing the upper hand just because they are women. I actually stand a pretty good chance of getting my three kids.

"MY PIMP HAND IS STRONG!"......

And you my friend dont belong on this site if you're only going to provoke people with idiotic drive-by statements.

This is totally uncalled for and a clear violation of the site rules. You have received an infraction for this violation. Please consider this warning when posting in the future.

OMG I nominate this "most depressing thread of the year". Wow... I don't know what to say but ddin't expect to find something like this here.

Todd/Indy