making the switch...need info on incred and DX

[bradhtc]

Making the move to droid from wm (imagio) with mixed feelings. some things in wm i have grown to rely on and want to know weather or not i can use them with droid (incredible and droid x), and which device will suit my needs best. i assume that because i have a history with htc i should go with the incred, but x seems to have the software advantage (usable apps) thus far. is this correct??
the biggest things for me are:
1)ability to have phone/messaging well integrated together like wm/sense
2)quality camera (for the kids)
3)customizability-i am in need for the ability to make it my own dammit
4)calendar-i have a nutty schedule and need a high level of flexibility in how the calendar works (most scheduling options)
4a)use of programs like exel, word reader etc (whats out there)
5)a handset that can handle all these things finally!!!!!!! tired of this crappy imagio!!

i have been reading a lot of material but would like it strait from experienced users.

here are my fav programs from wm that i would like to find something similar to in my next handset (or something close on droid):

4 column start menu (ability to customize best? x or incred?)
batti 2.4
clear temp (or similar)
enable in call recording
google maps (i know, i know)
group sms/mms
inbox extender
keyswop (again customizability!!)
ppc pim backup (or another reliable free service)
reset (for soft re-sets)
swype (will incred ever get one that truly works?!)
opera mini
sky fire (or any free no-frills and fast browser with flash built in)
extra camera features (camera IMPORTANT--i have kids)

i also seem to be picking up that there are more pay-apps with droid, i am accostomed to cheap and easy-free in wm. will i be diasapointed? also, if i use the htc device, can i expect any wm cabs to work in droid (i know, i know...)

thanks for the time and more helpful reading links welcomed!