Trying to get email setup just right

[kirstein]

OK, here's the holy grail for my on email:

1. Get email pushed from my earthlink email account in a timely manner.
1a If the above isn't possible at lease download at regular intervals.

2. Get notified (ring) when it arrives except between 9PM and 8 AM

3. When sending or replying to emails have the "Reply to" address appear as my earthlink address.


I can forward thru Hotmail and get timed forwards, but then my replies appear to come from hotmail.
I can just set up the earthlink account through the TP client, but I have to settle for downloads every x minutes/hours, and I would have to turn off the notifications every night so it won't wake me up with every new email. (I use the phone for an alarm clock so I don't turn it off overnight.)

Any ideas?