I use PhoneAlarm Pro From Pocketmax.net. It is a complete alarm management software. and the new version has a way to make the left softkey disable touchflow and have a normal display. it will also release the resources the TF3d uses. I love it. best of both worlds.
Yes there are ROMS without TF3D but why not just disable it in your Today settings? That is a no-brainer. Unlike the Mogul/Titan the TP has plenty of memory.