Flashed to 6.5 , now no active sync? Plus more questions.

Ok, I flashed Mattsm 6.5 23053 rom to my Mogul. Before the flash I would plug in my phone to my Vista Laptop and it would start Activesync on it's own. Since I flashed it. When I plug it in I only get a window (computer > Pocket_PC ) that shows the internal storage and storage card data.
What do you suggest to get activesync back?

On 6.1 the red button in the upper right corner would quickly show me what was still running and how much memory is being used.
Is there something as quick and easy in 6.5 that shows me the memory used and allows me to end programs?