Contacts Issues and odd stuff

[glidersgalore]

I am like most of us an Android Newbee. For years have been with WM or old Palm. Is there a way to get my contacts to show up like in WM. I had it set to display as: Company, last name, first name, do I need a new program? Also I always ran Mobile Shell and likes having all my important contacts under one button, how do I do that? And last when my phone synced with my gmail account it pulled all and I mean ALL of the addresses I have ever sent anything to. Can I stop that, and how do I get rid of the ones already on my phone?