1. Gloassry of terms here:
http://wiki.xda-developers.com/index...ename=Glossary
More here:
http://wiki.xda-developers.com/index...ename=Acronyms
2. imneveral0ne answered
3. imneveral0ne answered
4a. Asking this question is like asking a rhetorical question. No one will be able to truly answer for you. You have differnt taste then me and I have different taste than imneveral0ne. we are all differnt so different ROm's will eb the answer based on preference.
4b. But to answer the question in a more direct fashion: Yeah look at Juggalo's ROM and Conflipper's ROM. They are good to get started.
Quick two second newb guide:
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Search before asking any question! The question has more than likely been asked. No one likes to repeat themselves nor do you. You are forgiven this time as your question was well formed and understandable. This is acceptable ;c)
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Always hit the thanks button when someone helps you or you like answers they give to other people. We dont get anything else other than a thanks button and the occasional donation.
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Dont get stressed out if a flash goes bad. It happens. We can fix. If you come into the board all freaking out and using ALL CAPS and using L33TSPEAK LiKe ThIs iT jU2t M@kes it harder for the dedicated people on this board to assist you. Be civil and friendly. Using proper english is not must but it is preffered.
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Take everything with a grain of salt. Consider anything you read to be nuetral in attitude. If someone is trying to express a feeling they will do it
LIKE THIS! Or LIKE THIS! Or this 
or this 
. You get the idea. I guess what I am trying to say it is too easy to add your own emotional spin on words when you read them from a forum. Dont do it unless the author is really trying to convey emotion to you otherwise your own spin may block you from understanding what the author is really trying to say.
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Dont expect handouts from everyone. Each person is differnt and there expoectations ofyou are differnt. Some people will walk you through everystep, others will just post a link in response. You may have to work to get what youa re looking for.
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Dont PM a question to an OP that can be answered by reading the thread. READ the thread you are using from start to finish. Yeah, it can be combersome but it the long run it will make you a smarter person.
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Have fun and learn something new! There is more info on this forum than can be possibly quanitified. You will need to read posts and try things to get the most out of it.
If you have any further questions please feel to ask. Make sure you apply the above rules all the time and you wll get the maximum benefit and enjoyment from this place. We are all here to help. We dont get paid to do this. We do this because we like to share our knowledge and even like to show off our skills everyone once in a while.
Thanks for reading my ramble... If it was any benefgit to you.... Hit the thanks button! ;c)
- Scott