Ok final update
First off... Thanks Natefish for pointing me to NFSFAN and thanks to him for responding to my pm over at PPCHaven!!
I never actually figured out exactly what needed to be changed but it is working fine now.
I asked NFSFAN and he said that he did nothing special to get it to work so if mine wasn't then it must have been the OEM or an .rgu ... I had been just building manila2d into my rom from the PPCKitchen when it was not working so I built another rom in the Kitchen w/o Manila2d. Then just installed Manila2d post flash via the cab files in Update 19 and waallaa!! Works perfectly and clears the texts notifications when you read them