Not sure if this will help you, but I use Goodwin as my stylus free task manager. It's not free, but with this program you will see ALL of your programs (to include running programs, which are at the top) and you can close them easily. You can even select you favorite progams and place them at the top with running programs. No more guessing as to which programs are running or what programs you have.
Also, my phone opens directly to this program and I love having the ability to see all programs and settings on a single screen...not to mention it comes with a slide to unlock to boot. Hope this helps.
http://www.iwindowsmobile.com/mobile-launcher.html