SOLVED!!!!!
I didnt reformat, only because my Program Files Folder wouldnt cut and copy off the card for some crazy reason...
BUT, just taking off the Media folder and putting it back on was enough... ALL ringer, notification, and alarm tones are showing and working.. awesome!!!
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ive had sound enabled since the begining.. i had to select my ringer by playing it in media player first..
i have the same \media folder that contains the 2 sub folders w/ notifications and ringers.. but i didnt do the .cab install so i dont have the \Andboot folder...
i made a mock \andboot\media\xx\xx folder and put my notifications tones and stuff in there.. but when i boot into Android it just confuses Haret and it doesnt wanna boot because it has an blank \andboot folder..
So.... why can Android not find my ringers and notifications?? any suggestions on where to move the stuff so its picked up by Android?
Thanks