You can remove it, Cook your own ROM without it.
http://forum.ppcgeeks.com/showthread.php?t=118553
If you don't want to use the SMS tab in Sense turn off that tab and use The MS SMS program and add a Quick Link to it.
I think the problem is you know what you want but don't want to take the time to figure it out. sounds like you just want everything handed to you since this site is so slow for you. sorry if that sounds Mean but you state that in almost every post you make that you don't want to read 18 pages of info cause its slow. Every post you have made people have tried and tried to Help you including me. Instead of sounding like your better than the rest take some time to READ about the options that you are given and take some time searching.