Please help keep my Droid from waking me (and my wife) up!

[tvandyck7]

I just got traded my TP2 for a Droid on Friday. I have to say, this thing kicks the crap out of my TP2 and WinMo 6.5.
I have Gmail and Hotmail setup on this thing. Why does it keep notifying me that I have new mail when the messages are not really "new"? Yes, I have unread messages in my inboxes, but there's no need for it to keep reminding me. With WinMo it only notifies me when the e-mails first arrive and that's it. Is there anyway to set the Droid to do the same? It likes to scare the crap out of us at 3:00am. I'd rather not have to set it to silent to take care of it.
Thanks