Verizon Data Connection stopped - Please Help

[Explodee]

Thanks in advance for any help... OK here's my problem, I recently got a TP2 from Verizon and have had many problems with it so far. Especially with WMwifirouter. The main thing is that after I installed WMwifirouter and the ICS program from Microsoft it works like it should for a little while, then the data connection just craps out for no reason. Usually the 2 arrows showing that data is being transferred are white, but they are gray after a while and I cannot connect to anything. Not Opera, weather, IE, ANYTHING that uses the data connection. I went to the Verizon store for some reason thinking they could help me but of course they had no idea what was wrong. I dialed *228 and did the whole reprogramming thing and it didn't fix it. The only way to get it working again is to hard-reset. Which I have done 4 times now. On this last one I have not installed WMwifi or the ICS cabs i have and my data connection is still OK. So my questions are:

1 - Has anyone else encountered this problem? And how do you fix it?
2 - Is there a better program similar to WMwifirouter?
3 - Did Verizon somehow sabotage the phone so you are forced to use their VZAccess thing?

Please no posts saying "use the search" or whatever because I did already and got nothing.