1.) What kind of software do I need to download onto my phone in order to actually tweak my phone? Is there software out there that I plug all this information into or what? If so, where can I find it? Advanced Config/Diamond Tweak, google/xda. If you google it it will be the first link
2.) I'm having somebody make me a theme as I stated earlier (they're being paid for it) and I need to know how exactly I place this theme on my phone. Like I also stated earlier, I'm not smart enough with this phone yet to understand exactly what y'all are doing to really customize your phones. True noob right? I think windows mobile themes are in a tsk format. Google/http://www.wm6themes.com/ might have some info, link was the first one I found in google.
3.) I'd like to extend the battery life on it and I saw some people talking about tweaks to do this earlier, where can I find these and how would I actually put them on my phone? Google/Forum search of this site leads to
http://www.nuerom.com/BlogEngine/?page=2 no2chem's fastcharge, you could probably check google for "extending battery life on winmo devices" or something.