Thanks for everyones response, the hard reset worked.
I think what the problem was that I when I first got the phone activesync must have been running and I somehow got to the activesync "add server source" page from the menu and started to input info maybe thinking I was setting up an email account because that screen first asks for an email address, so the phone was looking for a connection from something that didn't exist. Or something like that.
Hope this might help anyone else who might run into this problem.
This is my first venture into any type pocket pc so obviously just a matter of not knowing what I was doing.
An old guy once told me
"nothings hard when you know how"
Truer words have never been spoke
Thanks again everyone.