ok, I FOUND IT!! In addition to DISABLING the notifications regarding Activesync, here is what has to be done to keep it from automatically bringing itself back to life.
I found the solution here (last post of the thread):
http://forum.xda-developers.com/arch.../t-459851.html
"1. Kill the repllog / remote h process in the task manager (recommmend fdc taskmanager for this)
2. Disable the Repllog Notification (Apprunaftertimechange) in the Notification Window.
3 Registry hack > HKEY>CURRENTUSER>SOFTWARE>MICROSOFT>ACTIVESYNC
locate value "Keep Alive" change this to "0" for disabled. 1 will keep it alive with the remote h settings."
BOOOYAH!
