It's actually not that hard to do the bootloader or hardresets.
You don't need the stylus. I just started a thread on this because I've seen it come up a lot in different forums.
http://forum.ppcgeeks.com/showthread...248#post799248
Here's the basics.
Once you're phone is powered down, decide which mode you want to go into.
Make sure the "PowerButton" is the last button you push and hold, since that will turn your phone on.
Note: Push and hold all the corresponding buttons to activate selected mode
Bootloader = VolumeDown + PowerButton
Trigger Bootloader = VolumeDown + BackArrow + PowerButton
Hardreset = VolumeDown + OK + PowerButton