[bones20]

I have tried several messengers including:
jivetalk
parlingo
im+
agile
nimbuzz
slick
octrotalk
fringe

Beehive is the best but its memory heavy (6mb)
Second best is Parlingo.

Does anybody know any work arounds for the following issues with parlingo?
1. Change Notification sounds
2. Configure notification to work only for the first message in a ping series
3. Notfications don work when in standby
4. group the contacts based on services


thanks