Well I finally got the bootloader thing to work, I just redid the whole thing but I had to uncheck a box in >settings>connections>usb to pc> "Enable advanced network functions." That's when the magic happened.

I flashed a new rom, but now I can't get data to work. All else seems to run well. I ran BitPIM, but it can't find the "generic serial" device drivers it needs. Wow, I have to apologize for being such a pain in the butt. You guys have the patience of Job, but I appreciate the help.