Thanks s10onn2o and Dette for all your help
After hours upon hours of trying to fix this thing I finally got it.
s10onn2o, I could get the phone into bootloader mode the whole time. There was just no way to connect to activesync. So I went ahead and tried like 3 other ROMs. But I would still get stuck on the Stewie screen. Next I decided to just go back to the stock ROM, found here:
http://forum.xda-developers.com/showthread.php?t=376829
Learning from all this I decided to load a GPS Radio first (3.42.40). Then went back to bootloader then added the Dette ROM. Working great now!!!! So happy!!!!!!!
Thanks again!