ok, I'm happy. I figured out a way to not get dashwire to pop up.
from a fresh re-set of the phone this is what I do:
1) start dashwire
2) force close dashwire by holding down the red X at the top right(i use quick menu)
3) start dashwire again. for whatever reason it doesn't show the interface when you start it again, but it runs in the background.
this is great, works just the way i want it to, never pops up, and still does all the features.
