so i have figured out some stuff. once you flash to 3.5, you cant let the verizon install their programs or you get 2 arcsoft programs or something. i have tried install (i think) an updated version of arcsoftMMS but when you go to click "new" for an MMS nothing happens. I then went and soft reset before the verizon installed its stuff. i then had to ad a server in the MMS config with these settings...
port 80
server address
http://mms.vtext.com/servlets/mms
connect via: internet
sending limit 248 (no 350 option)
WAP2.0
added a modem for #777 (my#@vzw3g.com pass:vzw)
when i tried to send it, i think, connects to the data network, sends and after a few minutes....unable to send message.
verizonguy please help, i think i have gone as far as i can. i dont know enough to go further. thanks for the help. i need my pix/flix