Update!!!!
Ok, did some reading on the MTTY commands. I know everyone told me to do the "set 16 0", but I also saw that the "set 14 0" will set it to start in OS mode. So I did "set 14 0" and it returned some HTC*#(&$( garbage.. then I did "set 16 0" and it didn't return anything (normal) so then I did "task 8" and it reset the phone.
But that came back immediatly into bootloader. So I took out the battery, left it out for 1 min, put it back in, and plugged it back into the USB. This time the bootloader screen did not come right back up (GOOD!!!), after about 20 secs, the power light turned yellow.. then to green.. it is waiting for me to hit power button to turn on right now... WHEW!!!!!
I still need to solve this problem with 2.40 Olipro though... I can't keep fighting this every time I need to soft-reset the device...
So if anyone has any more help or suggestions on the best way to change to an offical bootloader, let me know! Thanks