This site is an incredible resource, but the step by step n00b directions really aren't here yet... let me see if I understand this.
1. Make sure you have a PIM backup
2. Use the CoKe 2.31 to flash
this rom to get the radio upgraded
3. Reset before customization
4. Flash your own ROM built in the kitchen
Is that all there is? It seems like that's a lot of hype over those three steps