This should really go in the Accessories forum, but I haven't used headphones
with inline remote and a mic with my Evo 3d. I did a little searching and found the HTC 36H00880-04M. They say that they are for the EVO 4G, and other places on Amazon I've seen the same model number for "HTC Thunderbolt, HTC Inspire 4G, HTC EVO 4G, HTC EVO Shift 4G, HTC Droid Incredible and Many Other HTC Phones".
They are really inexpensive so if they aren't exactly what you want your not out much. Otherwise I'd consider bluetooth headphones. There is a thread about them in the Accessories forum
HERE.