thanks for the launcherpro suggestion
I found android pro widgets though, has same options as launcher pro widgets (looks same too) but isn't limited to a certain launcher. So I'll have to think about which one I want to buy
Still neither one looks to have the right contacts widget though so I'll keep looking
edit:went with launcherpro (still free), starting to like it over go launcher again. Easier to move app icon around on launcherpro