[bigdaddie]

K, after playing with many adapters reducers and such I found that this method works most of the time to use our mini usb to 3.5mm/mini usb adapters.
1) Start the media file playing with nothing pluged into the phone.
2) Plug the mini usb - 3.5/mini usb adapter into the PHONE WITHOUT anything plugged into the ADAPTER.
3) Plug your headphones, 3.5mm cable to car stereo, or whatever into the adapter.
4) Listen to soothing music or whatever......