Sorry to hear that. I know that most users do not experience this nor did I when I was regularly using my TP2. If and when you have the time, list all apps, mods, and tweaks you install on the ROM. How many email accts do you have set up with how much mail. Did you change the page pool, if so to what size. Are you overclocking and if so, to what speed. Have you reformatted your SD card lately.
Maybe you're right, and this ROM on your phone is just not meant to be. Dunno what else to tell you, sorry