thanks for all the help, i tried those telnet's and didnt offer what i was looking for. but i did find one, it's called Midpssh.
supported-devices [MidpSSH Documentation] they have several versions for different platforms. you just need to install java midlet first.
Download Intent Java MIDlet Manager 11.1.7.1036 for Windows Mobile PocketPC Free - Run programs written in Java for mobile phones on your Pocket PC. - Softpedia and it works perfectly. no lag, no messed up characters, you can set ansii and everything. once again thanks for the help everyone.