Hey guys ive got what you all have been looking for! the problem with answering calls is definitely due to the auto disconnect cabs you are talking about... i tried everything to get auto disconnect and it always caused the laggy dialer problem... the following cab is the ONLY thing that worked for me, i just found it last nite so here it goes...
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also, this will not fix the laggy dialer problem if you already have it, you will have to do a reg edit to fix it. install the .reg file to fix this... this .reg file is directly from my stock sprint 6.5 rom... there is a reg entry named "SuspendResume" and if you change that (exactly what those cabs change) you get that nasty dialer lag...