[twbrooks]

What you are saying is right to a degree on both, I can see what ls6tt is saying. I truly think and this is just my opinion to try and clear this up faster, let her know you know what's going on. Let her know if she wants to be with the other, go do her, split and leave you and the kids be if that's what she wants. No need to try and drag it on, or you also give a a option, you or him, you can try and make your narriage work or break it to the kids depending on there ages that you two are spliting and take it from there, but going through this the way your taking it now is going to hurt more and when you find out, man none of us want to hear you on the news for doing something, not to say you are. But you need to clear this soon, really and good luck to you we all support you.