[weedahoe]

PPCPimBackup is good and all and can be found all over the net by doing a simply and quick google search but it only backs up what is on the device at the time of the backup and not in real time. While this makes the app useful for backing up things, it makes it useless for the OP

To the OP, I can honestly say that when I was hiding texts from my wife (at the time) I had mine set up to not save a copy in the sent folder and to delete immediately w/o going to trash and asking for confirmation. I know exactly what games both of you are trying to play. It is true cat and mouse.

However, one thing I remember my wife trying to do was (when she thought I was asleep) she would take my phone and go through it and re-change the settings to keep a copy and delete goes to the trash. This is where I started getting a step ahead of her and using that other app we spoke about earlier. I know that app wont help you but my point is that maybe you can get a hold of her phone and change the settings back so you could find out more of what is going on.

Secondly, you do not have what ported what carrier you are using but I know I have VZW and I spoke to them about all this some time back. VZW does give a full detailed list of what number you text and what time and day. This works for who you text to and for who texts you. However, it does not provide WHAT text. In order to get that info you must subpoena the info and of which (from what i was told) they only keep 3-5days worth of it on the server anyway.

What carrier are you with BTW? Have you tried changing the settings on her phone yet? Have you checked your detailed phone bill?