Pin Enforcement is available through 'Touchdown'. It's a very nice mail app for the android phone. If you are a power user of mail this is the way to go. It's $20 from the market but you can try it for free for 5 days.
I'm an administrator for a MS Hosted Exchange environment that supports over 1.5 million users. I know ActiveSync and I whole-heartedly recommend Touchdown. It's secure, reliable, and easy.
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Contacts on the Droid need to be tied to a synchronized account: either gmail OR active sync.
If you're syncing through activesync you have two options:
-through a cellbrite machine at your Verizon store
-through your Personal Contacts once you have activesync set up. (just add them to outlook and they will show up almost instantly on your phone.)