o.m.g....
Finally. Two more flashes, upteen hard resets. I uninstalled the ones I bought at handango, installed the latest updates from lakeridge, reinstalled all themes. Then had to uninstall them, still had nothing but top bar and everything else completely missing. Then I used the WAD from lakeridge and the WA3 from Handango and holy %^@*#&%& it worked!!!!! The theme is up, and all the dang buttons are on there. I'm half blind now from doing all this but it's still freakin awesome.
So now on to tweaking it and making sure everything is operational and such! Thnx Torx for the awesome theme, icons, PCM theme and for not handing me the idiot stick when you read these later on ;-P