Wow, as much as I got a laugh from the bickering between the two of you is, rainfreak is right, please don't get this thread closed as I would really like to find an easy and seamless solution.
gsyncit looks interesting and I am considering it but I am sure someone somewhere has a way or a syncing program to sync directly with outlook. gmail has just been very weird trying to get all my contacts right. There all there but it just isn't right.
Thanks for all the help and all the laughs. The OP