HOW TO Set both bluetooth and handset to ring?

[slmclarengt]

My problem: When my bluetooth headset is connected, the ringer (not system sounds) only works in the headset and the phone does not ring. I found this issue mentioned numerous times (1 and 2), but with no solution. In previous ROMs (versions of the Touch Diamond ROMs and others), there were choices to 1) set only bluetooth to ring, 2) set bluetooth and handset to ring and 3) set handset to ring.

But I cannot find those settings anywhere on the phone. Registry hacks, Cabs or other advice is appreciated.