[RdBrd83]

I'm back to being at a loss again...

I finally had 2 people change their picture, one updated automatically, the other did not. The one that did was one of them that had linked up automatically, and the one that did not was one that I had to set the link for.
Also, random observation, what was put in the notes does not show up under the contact on the phone, but only shows up when viewing contacts in gmail from a computer.
So just taking a guess, it looks like the trick is going to be figuring out what causes certain contacts to link automatically on the very first sync with facebook instead of just showing a "suggested link".